Outside validation

Outside validation is a diminishing return. The warm glow does not last.
At first it is great to have someone validate you, "WOW, you're great." but if there is no real self-esteem (honest knowledge, feeling and nurturing of yourself) then the outside validation will end up making you feel worse. It will also take more outside validation, more often, to give you the same initial warm glow.


It is important to develop a real foundation of self-esteem. When you have this the outside validation matches the inner knowing and is easier to accept.




Richard Riche is a Motivational speaker and Self-esteem trainer