Goal setting - obituary

Write your own obituary as if you'd died today. What would it say?

What would you like it to say? If you died in ten/twenty years what would you want it to say?

How close are you to this person?
What steps would you need to take in order top become this person?

Turn the future obituary into a goal list. Make it specific, actionable and set a time frame.
what do you need to do and learn in order to become this person?

If you continue to do the same things you have always done ... how do you think your future will turn out? Make a choice to do something from your list today. Even a small step forward makes a difference.


Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

Emotional Pictures - goal setting

When you set goals ensure you are specific and include the emotions you desire to feel when you have achieved your goals.  Emotional goals are those which have a clear picture of what you want and a vibrant feeling attached.

Many people have wishy washy goals or negative goals. When asked what you want do you start off with "I don't want something like my old..."
Or maybe worse a wishy washy goal "I want something 'nice' ..."
A miss world answer does not help...

Be specific "I want a job that I am excited to go to, that stretches me, that develops my talents and utilizes my strengths. I want to feel excited, enjoy my day and feel like I make a valuable contribution."


Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

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Step: Take a step forward into your new choice. Start shifting your life - make new choices, decisions, have new thoughts, feeling, attitudes and beliefs - your reality will change. Create new strong emotional pictures. Change happens in an instant - the choice to change is in this moment - but the results of those changes may take a while to show up.

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

steps to freedom 4

Step: Take a step forward into your new choice. Start shifting your life - make new choices, decisions, have new thoughts, feeling, attitudes and beliefs - your reality will change. Create new strong emotional pictures. Change happens in an instant - the choice to change is in this moment - but the results of those changes may take a while to show up.

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

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Release: Release yourself through forgiveness - of self and others- it will set you free. Acknowledge you are human and have made mistakes.

We are all human and make mistakes. The important thing is to ensure we let go of the mistakes and move on. Understand why you held onto beliefs and attitudes that did not work for you, forgive yourself and move on.

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

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Awareness: Becoming aware of the patterns and where you are.

look at the habitual behaviour and where you are in your life.

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

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Ownership: Owning that you are the one with the power, you set it up or allowed it and you can change it or keep it. The choice is yours.


Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

mind shadows and metal tape loops

Mind shadows

The ideas and perspectives in our heads that, while unexamined, overshadow our confidence and leave us feeling nervous and anxious. An idea or repeated thought about yourself that is so much larger while in your head – like a scary shadow from your hand on the wall.

Mental tape loops

Those ideas that go round and round in our minds. The things we habitually say to ourselves without examination. We are often not kind to ourselves. We internalise our negative feelings and repeat the poor images we hold. These tape loops run 24/7. “I am not good enough” “I am fooling myself” 

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functionsand schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

mental gymnastics - association

Association – attaching weight meaning to a tone, gesture or action. Can work against you or for you…

I would suggest that no matter what anyone says take it as a compliment. This is a way to begin to counter the ravages of your bad habits. Use your imagination. Have fun. If someone insults you instead of taking it as an insult try twisting it as a weird compliment. It has two affects, it helps you learn to use your imagination in a positive direction rather than belittling yourself and it also annoys the person trying to insult you, leaving them frustrated. 

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functionsand schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

Ownership - motivation

Imagine you became a doctor who discovered a cure for some debilitating disease. If you did it because you thought you’d impress your parents, a significant other or any other reason that was not about you - your motivation/ambition is negative.  Even with all the wonderful work that you do there would be an emotional hole you could not fill. In fact, part of you may resent what you do (or the other people) as it is for them. The day you own that you enjoy doing what you do, that it you are primarily doing it because you get something out of it the very same actions will no longer cause resentment and you will feel the satisfaction and joy of a job well done.

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functionsand schools. He is a  Communication trainer, Motivational speakerand Self-esteem trainer

Ownership

Any ambition/motivation that is not your own is negative.

If you are not doing it for yourself (honestly owning what you get out of it) then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. No matter how noble or selfless it may seem. What you do will not fulfil you but rather will leave you empty and hollow. If you can own what you get out of that very same activity, acknowledge that you get something out of it, then the same activity which before left you feeling hollow or empty will now give you a greater sense of accomplishment.


Mother Theresa was a very self-ish woman. She owned her motivation, she knew why she did what she did, not for anyone else. She did it for the joy it brought her. The delight and spark in a child's eye.  She did it for her Self. What she got out of it. A positive motivation and payoff.


Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools.
Communication trainer, Motivational speaker, Self-esteem trainer

Mental gymnastics

Association – attaching weight meaning to a tone, gesture or action. Can work against you or for you…

Mental gymnastics is the way we twist things to work for or against us.

No matter what anyone says take it as a compliment. This is a way to begin to counter the ravages of your bad habits of taking everything personally and thinking the worst. Use your imagination. Have fun. If someone insults you instead of taking it as an insult try twisting it as a weird compliment. It has two affects, it helps you learn to use your imagination in a positive direction rather than belittling yourself and it also annoys the person trying to insult you, leaving them frustrated. 

Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools.
Communication trainer, Motivational speaker, Self-esteem trainer