If you like, value and appreciate yourself you will allow someone you respect to get close to you and really see who you are – the real and wonderful intimacy of someone we respect seeing who we are in quiet tender moments.
Confidence is directly connected to your level of self-esteem and personal intimacy.
If, however, you do not really like, value and appreciate yourself, ie have poor self-esteem, you will not allow someone you respect that closeness and intimacy. Instead you will more likely to associate with or play the “bad” boy or girl. People you may have a poor opinion of or disrespect. By doing so you do not feel as exposed as it does not matter if they honestly see you (the way you see yourself) as you have already determined (on an emotional level) they are not worthy of respect. Their opinion may hurt but will not be as devastating as someone you value and respect getting close and seeing “You” as you yourself honestly believe you are – as flawed.
Your self-esteem is your emotional perception of your value. It is a perspective you operate out of, it is not, however, the truth.
Richard Riche does motivational key note addresses for corporate functions and schools. He specialises in Presentation Skills, Communication training, Motivational speaking and self-esteem training
